Decide Vs Choose

I learnt some thing very beautiful today. I don’t know if any of us would have taken the trouble to analyse the difference between deciding and choosing. We always use these words as if they are synonyms. But if we realise the difference we can live a better life. Lets go word by word..

Decide: When we have two options we discard one over the other. But you know what,  we actually kill the other option. It feel proud to say ‘ I took a decision’. When we decide we base our decision on certain considerations. Our decisions are related to a favorable situation or condition. So when the situation changes the same decisions become wrong.

“Move on” for a powerful life

After my  earlier post on empowerment. I had decided to put down a few habits of mine which makes me feel powerful.  Again let me clarify, by power I do not mean I feel the whole world is under my thumb.  It is that “I” basically fell all charged up and enthusiastic enough.  I am basically relating it to the way I feel within; “powerful”.  And I had to use the word habit as I feel I diligently follow this patter.  Is it always this way, may not be, only that when I deviate I know I am deviating and I can get back on track.

“DO GOOD, no matter what”

I am sure its not my experience alone, each one must have been through the similar phases.  You do good to people around and they may stab you back.. they forget the good done.. they ignore the help received.  It is simple and easy to say, no matter what good you do people are ungreatful.  So dont do good. By doing good I dont mean just monitory help.  It is everything from lending shoulders in distress  to holding a stick for some one to cross a bridge.

But I have a habit, no matter what, DO GOOD. .

Selfpowerment !! World what say?

I talk a lot about the word empowerment .. my earlier post on the subject  was quite a debate.. even today i am of the opinion that empowerment is the most misused and abused word.

Couple of weeks back there was this big big news about the ex-union minister making his wife take a vow  not to take away sacred symbols after his death.   Ya, of course it needs a wow, the man has to have guts  to do this in public in the 21^st century   No debate on that.. or we will debate on this later.

What got my attention was the fact she did not know about it until he announced it in public.. see this.   There were three women who took the vow that they will not remove the mangalsutra, continue to keep bindi, etc after the husbands die and the media asks for comments the reply was, “ we did not know we were to take this vow” “I am shocked and cant react” infact one women says, “she is hurt”.  Is this empowerment?   It should have been the other way round..these men should give their wifes so much freedom that they will think and declare on their own they want to do so and so .. and then the husbands support them.  You thrust, impose and then claim empowerment.

If this is what empowerment is, so be it.. let people take advantage, use it & claim the limelight.  Lets create another word selfpowerment, give enough freedom for people to decide and do things because they feel powerful from within.  SELFPOWERMENT.. what say world.

Pitfalls of Intelligence..

It is rather stupid, but it is a fact, intelligence in human beings has its own pitfalls. It is said the difference between intelligence and stupidity is that intelligence has its limits. Some of the very common and accepted drawbacks (remember not pitfalls) is like forgetting simple things in life from car keys to first names of people. Things like these have become a natural habit (?!). I want to talk about the pitfalls..lets see the top three. Why these appear in my list because it impacts, others, surroundings, performance directly or indirectly.

Not content = greedy?

Sometimes when you have a feeling you are having a conversation again and again, it gives raise to blogs.  Last few days same question crossed me, from various people.  Why do you have to slog like this?  associated to this will be, ‘why not let things happen at its phase?’   underlined will be questions like, ‘why entrepreneurship?  why not a ‘normal’ ‘regular’ job?’  with a hidden meaning ‘why are you after money like this?’ consolidated into one single question “why are not content?”

Its a wonderful life

Happen to watch the 1946 classic movie “its a wonderful life”.  I was so moved and touched by the movie that i had to write about it.  By the way this movie happens to be one of the most inspiring movies of all times.   This may be the origin of many such movies in similar lines..including zindagi na milagi….

The story line..its the normal – the good hero – the beautiful heroine – the bad man.. etc.

When you think NO you end with a NO!

I had a meeting couple of days back..which provoked this post.  It is a few weeks since we are trying to fix up the meeting and it was finally scheduled.  I walked into the posh and beautiful office..I was all geared up and I was so sure of a good closure..

But, the minute I started the conversation with the team… I knew they had already decided a NO for me.  so in the next one hour, all that I said had contentions and disagreement.  

Don’t forget to live..

I met a friend after a long time, almost 10 years,  we spent some time talking..we are supposed to be of same age.  When I left saying a bye.. i felt I was with someone twice my age.  Every one dreams of the future..I have big dreams for my future.  I realized,  I felt my friend was so old because he was in his future.  He is living there.  It just occurred,  most live in their future.  It is of course sensible and right to plan for the future, but I don’t know how it is right to kill your present for the sake of the future.

I remember the following lines….