We are taught to be grateful, to thank for what we have. We are taught to show gratitude. So whats gratitude? Wikipedia saya: Gratitude is an emotion that occurs after people receive help, depending on how they interpret the situation. Specifically, gratitude is experienced if people perceive the help they receive as (a) valuable to them, (b) costly to their benefactor, and (c) given by the benefactor with benevolent intentions; oops 🙂
In simple terms gratitude is the state of being grateful; thankfulness. Now i will come to what I am getting at. Whom do we generally thank. All those who helped us, of course. I also do that, I have a huge gratitude list, in fact two, one personal and one official. But i always felt I should have another list for being grateful. List of all those who have let me down, all those who have hurt me, all those who have betrayed, all those who have broken my trust..
I remember to story of the donkey..
One day a farmer’s donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally he decided the animal was old and the well needed to be covered up anyway it just wasn’t worth it to retrieve the donkey. He invited all his neighbors to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and begin to shovel dirt into the well.
At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone’s amazement he quieted down. A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well and was astonished at what he saw. With every shovel of dirt that fell on his back, the donkey was doing some thing amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up. As the farmer’s neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and totted off !
Life & people are going to throw dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. Here I am not talking about those small souls who die under the dirt, but those of you who shake it out, step up and climb out. I always felt every such negative event and people have pushed us up and high. They some time bring out capabilities which is not known to ourselves. So I know that there should be a list of all those who have thrown dirt and we should be thankful, grateful to them.
I have altered my ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE.