Lets talk about stress.. many have posed this question to me.. Don’t you get stressed. Sometimes ‘yes’, but not always. I never knew why so? Actually I never realized till recently that Stress is of two kinds “good” and “bad”.
Good stress is when you rise to your challenges and bad stress feeds on worry, fear and anxiety. Good stress is ok but bad stress needs to be handled. Stress is a matter of judgment. In becoming stressed people make two judgments:
- 1. Feel threatened by a situation
- 2. Doubt their own capabilities and resources.
How stressed someone feels depends on how much damage they think the situation can do to them. Originally, primitive man functioned completely by instinct. Primitive man survived on two instincts, either fight or flight. Either have strength and aggressiveness to fight or develop agility, speed etc for flight. As primitive man started to think he developed a third response : play dead in crisis. Most negative stress results due to this response.
Now let me stop. What I have stated above are not my words. This is borrowed from a one day ‘stress Management’ workshop I recently attended. ‘Purnima? You and stress Management?’ ya ofcourse. I work average 17 hours per day. I get stressed. But it does not strain me… only after this workshop I understood the good and bad stress.
The seminar was conducted by Ms. Saai Nirmala Founder of Tranquil Gardens. The seminar covered a thorough understanding of the situations which creates stress, specially the negative stress. Saai takes it through with examples from everyday life and makes it easy for you to co-relate. It is funny that sometimes the very positive aspect of one’s personality can be a cause of stress. It was a fun filled experience which left me with a lot of food for thought at the end of the day.
Take a break in case of positive stress and identify and eliminate negative stress…
By the way.. the quotes from Saai’s workshop, which I am going to borrow again, is amazing.
Vision is not enough; it must be combined with venture. it is not enough to stare up the steps; we must step up the stairs.-Vaclav Havel
This is another one I love..
You’ve got to think about the big things while you’re doing small things, so that all the small things go in the right direction.